2003-06-19 - 11:40 a.m. In a continuation of the strange but actual IM conversation that I had with my ex-husband (again names are changed or omitted but typos are real): (CHEESYSCREENNAME): congrats.... you've shot yourself in the foot Dolphin: howso? (CHEESYSCREENNAME): it was nj child support that has done it Dolphin: so they've found your bank account (CHEESYSCREENNAME): putting a levy on the account... any money that goes in goes directly to them for an amount of 5200 Dolphin: remind me again, who has done what to whom? Dolphin: who is the deadbeat parent? who has not supported ___________ financially or emotionally for over a year? Dolphin: I'm sorry but I have little sympathy for you (CHEESYSCREENNAME): for starters i'm trying to make the best of it Dolphin: I don't care about your schooling or your certifications - what I care about is ___________ (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i cn't physically hold down a physical job and searching for something that my body can handle has been an interesting endeaver (CHEESYSCREENNAME): well if you care about ___________ you should care about my schooling and certifications Dolphin: millions of people deal with chronic pain Dolphin: and if you can't, go on public assistance (CHEESYSCREENNAME): you always said that i wasn't QUALIFIED (CHEESYSCREENNAME): well that's what i'm doing so that i CAN BE qualified Dolphin: and I always said to work at something else to put yourself through school to get qualified. Dolphin: and how long has it taken you to start school? (CHEESYSCREENNAME): because of you and this levy thing i have no travel or food money since all the fmaily is in FL Dolphin: if you had started a year ago, it might be different (CHEESYSCREENNAME): yeah i know it took me a while (CHEESYSCREENNAME): it toook me that long to get over the depression (CHEESYSCREENNAME): but atleast i got myself together now can think for myself and now i'm doing stuff because it's RIGHT, NOT becuase it's jumping through a hoop to satisfy you (CHEESYSCREENNAME): as i always did.... why... because i loved you.. you always put yourself in that all knowing position of i should do this or i should do that... and yeah i know.. (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i fell right into it.... (CHEESYSCREENNAME): but i'm making what i can of myself for my son (CHEESYSCREENNAME): for you (CHEESYSCREENNAME): and for myself last.... yes last.... (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i could care about the latest greates gadget... all i want is to be able to afford to see my son every week (CHEESYSCREENNAME): and i'm working towards that (CHEESYSCREENNAME): you need to call whoever you need to to get the levy off my account becuase it's money out of YOUR pocket as well Dolphin: I could always have them pick you up and take you to jail - would you prefer that? (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i have my 5 year plan and it does include you in it.... Dolphin: I find it laughable that all you want is to be able to afford to see your son every week. You saw him 4 times in a year. Don't give me that you want to see him every week - I DON'T BELIEVE YOU. (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i've called and sent letters to them to contest your actions but none calls me back and i have had no answer whatsoever from them in the past 2 months (CHEESYSCREENNAME): fuck you..... you never knew what i want.... (CHEESYSCREENNAME): my son is what i want.... nothing more Dolphin: you've shown me what you want and what you don't want by your actions and inactions (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i do things for him now not you Dolphin: that's the way it should be Dolphin: it took you long enough Dolphin: let's hope it's not too late (CHEESYSCREENNAME): forgive me for having loved you (CHEESYSCREENNAME): call whoever you need to so that i can do what i need to do for my son Dolphin: I forgive you for having loved me. I do not forgive you for abandoning my son (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i never did (CHEESYSCREENNAME): YOU LEFT ME!!! remember that... and YOU are the one who took him (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i always wanted to keep us togetehr Dolphin: I'm not calling anybody. You can rot in jail for all I care. (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i always wanted to be there everyday with him Dolphin: You didn't do what you needed to do to "keep us together" and my expectations were clear. (CHEESYSCREENNAME): i'm glad you care that much about your son Dolphin: My son will be better off not having a father than having a father like you (CHEESYSCREENNAME): you always raised your expectations and kept putting another hooop after thae other (CHEESYSCREENNAME): this father actually cares about him.. can damnit i still care about you.... Dolphin: prove it (CHEESYSCREENNAME): atleast i've been able to reschedule my test... (CHEESYSCREENNAME): for jul 3 (CHEESYSCREENNAME): do me a favor try not to get my arressted or killed before then ... i would very much like to have my certification (CHEESYSCREENNAME): good bye (CHEESYSCREENNAME) signed off at 11:31:49 AM. How surreal is that? A five year plan? I'm almost scared of that one. But all he's doing right now is blowing smoke. And the real bottom line is that I should get a little check sometime soon.   previous - next